Shadow Work Prompts to Help You Deal With Jealousy in Relationships

• 1. Write about the last time you experienced jealous feelings. Describe what happened, including how it made you feel.
• 2. What was one thing you could do differently today to avoid feeling jealous or experiencing negative emotions again?
• 3. How does being jealous make you feel?
• 4. When you were younger, did you ever experience jealousy towards someone else? Was there anything at all unusual about this situation?
• 5. Do you remember any other times when you felt jealous? Why did these situations happen?
• 6. If you had an opportunity to ask anyone in your life why they didn’t want to be friends with you, what might you ask them?
• 7. Think back over the past year. Were there any moments where you felt like you were losing control? Did you notice any changes in your behavior during those times?
• 8. Have you ever noticed yourself becoming more jealous as you age? Explain.
• 9. Imagine that you’re going through a difficult time right now. You’re having trouble making decisions because you feel so confused. In addition, you’re worried that you may lose control. Are you able to think clearly? Can you explain why you feel this way?
• 10. Would you describe yourself as a person who is always looking out for number one? Or do you prefer to put others first? Explain.
• 11. Is there anything that makes you feel guilty about being jealous? If so, what is it?
• 12. If you had a chance to go back in time and change something from the past, what would you choose?
• 13. If you could take away one thing from the past, what should it be?
• 14. Do you believe that people deserve to be happy? Explain.
• 15. If you could give someone advice about jealousy, what would you tell them?
• 16. Do you think that jealousy is a good or bad emotion? Explain.
• 17. Has jealousy ever caused you to act in ways that you regret later on? Explain.
• 18. Do you find it hard to trust people? Why or why not?
• 19. Does jealousy affect your relationships? Explain.
• 20. Why do you think you experience jealous feelings more than other people? Discuss.
• 21. Have you ever done things just to hurt someone when they weren’t even around? Tell me about this!
• 22. Why do some people seem more attractive to other people than to you?
• 23. What do you think are the best ways to deal with jealousy?
• 24. Share two ideas you use to cope with jealousy. Be sure to include at least one personal example.
• 25. Why do you sometimes get angry when jealous feelings come up? Do you ever wish that you could learn to let the fear of getting angry stop you from acting in unhealthy ways?
• 26. What are the most important traits you need to develop if you hope to overcome jealousy?
• 27. Which of the following words apply to you personally?
• 28. Have you ever been jealous toward someone who was close to you? If yes, share some details about that situation.
• 29. Why do you think people often talk negatively about jealousy? Could it be because some people don’t realize jealousy is not a positive emotion?
• 30. Write down three statements that show how jealousy gets in the way of our happiness. Then, write down three reasons why we shouldn’t have negative feelings after reading these statements.
• 31. Describe how jealousy has affected your love life.
• 32. Some people say that jealousy is a sign that someone has found true love. Others claim that jealousy shows signs that a relationship will end badly. What do you think? Explain.
• 33. When you get jealous, what is your typical reaction? Why does this reaction occur?
• 34. What can you do to move beyond jealousy?
• 35. What do you think most other people think about jealousy? How does it differ from their thoughts?
• 36. Write down five situations where jealousy comes into play. Identify which ones make you jealous.
• 37. Think about any experiences you might have had with jealousy. Also, identify whether or not those events were healthy or harmful.
• 38. Who do you think is capable of controlling jealousy? Discuss.
• 39. In what way do you want to define the word “jealousy:” as an honest feeling, a mistake, a sin, a disease, or something else?
• 40. People have different opinions about the role jealousy plays in romantic relationships. Is jealousy really something we ought to try to avoid? Why or why not?
• 41. Do you feel guilty when you are jealous over someone else? Explain.
• 42. Are there times when it feels easier to forgive others’ mistakes and to overlook their faults? Why or why not. (For example, would you forgive a friend who cheated on you?)
• 43. Do you think that people are born with certain tendencies that influence how they react to jealousy? Why or why not.?
• 44. How much control do you believe you have over your own emotions? How much control do you think other people have over their own emotions?
• 45. What kinds of behaviors tend to provoke jealousy in you — and what should you do instead?
• 46. What do you think causes jealousy? Can you imagine yourself without being jealous? How does having no emotions like jealousy help?
• 47. The average person becomes jealous more than once during his or her lifetime. How often has jealousy affected your life?
• 48. Name three ways you have tried to deal with jealousy. Share how effective each strategy was.
• 49. Talk about a time when jealousy caused you to lose self-control. What happened? What did you feel?
• 50. List five things you have done lately to increase awareness about jealousy.
• 51. Would you accept the fact that you may be ‘insecure’ about your relationship? Please explain.
• 52. Tell the story of a situation in which you felt insecure about your relationship. What was happening at the moment you began to feel insecure?
• 53. Has anyone ever told you that you need to work on your insecurity? If so, who said it?
• 54. What kinds of things cause you to become insecure about your relationship?
• 55. Do you agree that people can sometimes be too confident about their relationships? Be specific.
• 56. Describe a particular experience with jealousy in which you felt very angry. Why did you feel upset?
• 57. How does anger contribute to jealousy? Have you ever experienced something similar with this emotion? How did it go?
• 58. Does the idea of jealousy scare you? Why or why not?,
• 59. Do you believe that jealousy makes us less happy and more miserable? Explain.,
• 60. Jealousy takes up lots of space in our minds. When we hate ourselves because of jealousy, is that space free for anything else.?
• 61. Jealousy consumes a lot of energy. As long as jealousy exists, we cannot enjoy our lives fully. So do you think jealousy is worth all the negative energies it costs us?
• 62. Does jealousy make you feel better about yourself? Explain.
• 63. Name one thing you could do right now to reduce your feelings of jealousy.
• 64. Do you think you will always feel jealous when you see other couples together? Why or why not?
• 65. Think of four things that you love about yourself. What kind of characteristics do these qualities exhibit?
• 66. What do you know about jealousy? Do you think that people usually change if they learn to control it? Explain.
• 67. Is jealousy always bad for your relationships? How do you know?
• 68. In what way does jealousy affect you and your partner? How would you describe it?
• 69. Why don’t we all have the same amount of jealousy in all moments? Can you imagine some instances where jealousy might happen but doesn’t?
• 70. Are you aware of any particular situations that are extremely important to remember when dealing with jealousy? Are you doing them? Why or why not.?
• 71. What is it like to live with someone who suffers from jealousy? What experiences have you had?
• 72. How do you think your relationship with your partner would improve if you were able to conquer jealousy?

Conclusion

I hope that these writing prompts on jealousy in relationships have helped you to cope with any child wounds and abandonment issues that you may have in your daily life.

Best of luck!