Breakup Journal Prompts to Help You Get Over Heartbreak

• 1. Think back to the day you two broke up. Was there anything else you could have done differently to avoid ending things? If so, what? This is important because now that you’re free from this relationship, you may think there was nothing you should have done.
• 2. Imagine that you recently started dating again after getting over your ex. What do you expect out of your next relationship? Knowing your expectations and what you want is important, as they influence how you feel when you meet new people.
• 3. Write about all the reasons why you decided to break up with him or her. When looking at these reasons, try to remember if there is anything that seems particularly relevant and/or stands out. Is there anything specific you want to change?
• 4. What did he/she bring to the table before he/she left? How much responsibility were you willing to take on for his/her benefit? You don’t need to answer here; just write whatever comes to mind. However, answering this question will help you understand why you got involved with him or her in the first place.
• 5. What did you wish you had told him or her sooner? Why didn’t you tell him or her earlier? In what ways does saying “I love you” right now sound different than your first time saying it? Do you think it will mean more now that you’ve been through some stuff together?
• 6. Try to identify qualities that make you attractive to others. What makes them attracted to you? Are those same things that attract other men or women? It doesn’t matter — identifying the things that make you unique is important.
• 7. Try to figure out what you like most about yourself, then focus on enhancing that part of you. For instance, if you enjoy playing softball, find a sport that incorporates similar skills. Maybe swimming would be an option.
• 8. Does anyone know about your past relationships? Did you keep your secrets to yourself or share them with friends? Why did you decide whether to share them or not?
• 9. What kind of person do you think your ex is? Are you surprised by the answers you just wrote down? If yes, is there something specific about your ex that caused you to see things in this light?
• 10. Have you ever been cheated on? Were you hurt? Explain. If you weren’t, explain the circumstances around it.
• 11. Write down everything you regret about your relationship with your ex. There’s no need to list specifics; just describe your regrets in general and what did you learn from it such that you won’t repeat it in the future.
• 12. Write down all the reasons you decided to stay single. Now read over what you wrote and figure out which ones relate to you specifically.
• 13. Think about all the positive experiences that have come out of being alone during your romantic breakup. How did it affect you? What can you apply from those times to improve your current situation?
• 14. Would you say that you are generally happy or sad? Why do you think so?
• 15. Are you still thinking about having another serious long-term relationship? If yes, what are you doing to prepare? If no, write down some of the reasons why you aren’t interested in having a serious relationship yet. 
• 16. What was your biggest mistake when it came to dating? Was it something that happened early on or late on? What do you want to avoid making again?
• 17. What is the difference between attraction and infatuation? How difficult is it for you to recognize these feelings? What should you do so that you don’t get caught up in them?
• 18. What are three adjectives that describe how you feel about yourself? Is there anything that describes you differently today than one year ago? One month? This week? At any point in time?
• 19. Take a look back at your last journal entry. Were there any new insights? Has anything changed since the last time you wrote?
• 20. Do you believe that people change? Or does everyone remain the same throughout life? What does that mean to you personally?
• 21. As you start out dating again, what will you tell every guy/girl you meet? Will you use this as an opportunity to really put yourself forward, or will you simply act normal?
• 22. Write down five goals or dreams you have in mind. What are they? Keep in mind that these goals shouldn’t be too unrealistic or unattainable. But you also don’t want to settle for less than perfect.
• 23. Imagine that you have the ability to control your emotions. What would you do with that power? Use it wisely or foolishly?
• 24. In what areas would you like to improve? What do you feel comfortable admitting?
• 25. Do you have any big plans for this summer? Anything that you want to accomplish? Are you going somewhere exciting? If yes, mention the details.
• 26. Write down as many qualities that you feel attracted to about someone. Don’t limit yourself to physical traits; include any character qualities you find appealing as well.
• 27. Think about each person who has broken your heart. Were their actions justified by some circumstance, or were they simply bad people?
• 28. Describe the most memorable experience you had while you were in a relationship. Did it turn out positively or negatively? Have you learned something from it?
• 29. Now that you’re getting over your ex, write down four things (one thing per page) that you absolutely love about yourself. What do they represent for you?
• 30. Make a list of any potential problems that could arise if you decide to continue dating. Should you try to find a way around them? Or just live with them?
• 31. Do you feel as though you need to get right back into another serious relationship or stay single forever? Why? Are you ready for more commitment? Can you make the necessary sacrifices now?
• 32. Look back at your first post-breakup journal. Were you able to gain insight about what went wrong? How did you feel after reading those entries?
• 33. How would you rate yourself when it comes to communicating? Would you say you’re excellent or terrible? Give specific examples of times when you communicated well with others and when you didn’t.
• 34. What are some things that make you happy? List three categories: personal interests, professional pursuits, and spiritual pursuits.
• 35. What are some hobbies or distractions that help you deal with stress? You can’t always work on improving your relationships, but you can always relax and unwind. So which of these activities do you enjoy doing?
• 36. What is one quality that you think is most important to possess in order to succeed in a romantic relationship?
• 37. Where would you go if you had to leave your current hometown? Who would you travel with? Why would you choose that particular destination?
• 38. If you knew ahead of time that your relationship was doomed, how would you handle that situation? Would you still go through with it?
• 39. Remembering those feelings and experiences during your last relationship, what emotions does this remind you of? Which ones do you wish you hadn’t experienced?
• 40. When was the last time you told someone “I love you?” Was it because you felt the other person needed to hear it, or was it because it made you feel good?
• 41. What is currently occupying your thoughts? Is there anything else you’d like to address here?
• 42. In five years, where do you hope you will be personally? Professionally? Spiritually? Personally spiritually is different than professionally, so don’t worry about mixing the two up.
• 43. Describe your ideal man/woman. What do you look for in a partner?
• 44. Write down where you see yourself 10 years from today. What do you envision for your life? Your career? Your family? Your community? Yourself?
• 45. Do you find it easy to forgive people who have hurt you? Do you know why it can sometimes take longer to forgive and forget?
• 46. Do you tend to fall back into old patterns after you break up with someone? How are you working toward change? Have you been successful? Has anyone helped you along the way? How?
• 47. What has been the hardest part about healing? What has been the easiest? How have you handled each challenge?
• 48. How do you define success? Be as specific as possible.
• 49. What advice would you give to someone who recently broke up? How much information should they receive before making such a decision?
• 50. What is something that makes you insecure? What causes you to feel better about yourself?
• 51. What kind of relationship do you want to have in ten years? Are you planning to marry any day now? Will you ever get married again?
• 52. What qualities do you expect out of your significant other? What qualities do you not want in a mate?
• 53. Describe some aspects of a healthy relationship.
• 54. What steps have you taken to improve communication skills?
• 55. What can you do to ensure that all of your needs are met? You’ve talked about being grateful about what you already have; now talk about setting goals to achieve your dreams.
• 56. What’s holding you back? Think of all the reasons you say no to opportunities that come your way. Now reexamine them.
• 57. Does anyone make you feel as though you have to prove yourself?
• 58. Are you afraid to let others close to you?
• 59. What does the word “love” mean to you? To others?
• 60. Can you list three things that are important to you? Explain your reasoning behind each item on that list.

Conclusion

I hope that this journal prompt process has helped you to go recover from the difficult breakup that you might be going through right now, as well as aiding your healing process so that you can find love again.

Best of luck!