Journaling Prompts for Couples to Improve Their Current Relationships and Intimacy

• 1. How do I make sure that my sexual needs are met and that our relationship is healthy? Being aware of this is important because it opens the door for communication about what’s going on with us sexually. It gives us an opportunity to talk about how we feel toward each other during lovemaking. What makes you happy about being intimate with someone else? What bothers you about sex?
• 2. How well do we know each other? What would it take to really get to know someone? We can learn a lot about ourselves by knowing more about others. What qualities should we look for when evaluating new people in our lives? Is there someone you have been neglecting lately? Why don’t you go spend time with them today?
• 3. What can I say to my partner if I want him/her to listen better? Sometimes it’s hard for us to hear things that may hurt our ego. To help change that attitude, try saying “I love you” every day when you wake up. Let your partner know how much you appreciate them by sending flowers once a week.
• 4. Do you remember when we first started dating? Can you tell me why you chose me? What made you fall in love with me? Did you see yourself having kids someday? How do you like seeing babies? Tell me what you think the world will be like after I have children.
• 5. Do you support me while I pursue my dreams? People who are successful in life usually have a strong sense of self-worth. If you find something you enjoy doing, share it with us! What kind of job do you want to hold? Will you follow me wherever I decide to work? How does it feel to kiss someone who is not just a friend? Show me how you like to be kissed.
• 6. What is your dream for our future together? Does anyone ever ask you what you want? When was the last time you asked your partner what they wanted? Take turns asking the questions. Try telling them that you heard your spouse mention something interesting related to their work. You could also invite your partner over to talk about it further.
• 7. Have I expressed everything I care about to you? Your actions speak louder than words. By saying one thing, you might mean another. Make sure you understand each other well before making emotional commitments.
• 8. Where do we disagree? Don’t you think we should start discussing the differences our ideas have? Some people believe that if we disagree on a subject, it means we no longer like each other. This isn’t true. It simply shows that we differ on certain views. So, instead of arguing or feeling guilty and sorry about our disagreement, let’s use it as an opportunity to create a stronger bond between us.
• 9. As long as you feel safe, take risks. Are you willing to give me all of yourself? Do you trust me enough to keep a secret? How can I show you that I am trustworthy?
• 10. Are we too busy to communicate? There’s always room for improvement. Maybe it’s time to set aside some free time for just us. Ask each other what you can do to keep the spark burning and improve your communication skills together. Who knows? It might be fun trying different approaches.
• 11. Do you notice me when I am angry? Everyone has bad days. Why do you choose to stay mad at me when you clearly know it won’t make you happy? Do you wish you had someone who could help you through tough times? Imagine what it feels like to have your best friend stand behind you during those difficult moments.
• 12. How can I be more romantic? Love doesn’t need to be complicated. It can often be spontaneous and joyful. However, sometimes couples forget to express their love to each other.
• 13. How do you handle conflict? Conflict hurts us because it disrupts the peace within our relationship. Learn to resolve conflicts without causing harm to each other.
• 14. How do you deal with a stressful situation? How do you cope when things don’t go right? Think of ways that you can solve problems easily.
• 15. What can I do to make you happy? How can I cheer you up when you aren’t enjoying yourself? Is there anything you would like to change about me? Would you prefer that I eat my meals in silence?
• 16. How can I become more patient? Life isn’t easy. Sometimes, it seems like everyone around us wants to drag us down. We get tired and frustrated.
• 17. What can I do if I want to impress you? Are you attracted to the person I am becoming? Share your accomplishments with me so that I will realize how much I truly appreciate you.
• 18. What can I do for you? When did you last tell me that I made you smile? If you find it hard to say, write down some things that you admire about me. Letting someone know what makes you happy will make them happier.
• 19. Do you wish you were more affectionate towards me? A lot of men like to receive physical attention. And, many women appreciate compliments and gifts.
• 20. Do you ever doubt that we belong together? Are you worried that we will drift apart? Think about how your partner cares that you care about her. Find out whether he/she is also concerned about you.
• 21. Have you been keeping secrets from me lately? Open up now and confess everything. No matter how silly it may seem, try and understand where your partner is coming from.
• 22. How well do you know me? Some people are good at telling others exactly what they think. Others lie or disguise their true feelings.
• 23. Have I done something to upset you? Sometimes, we don’t mean to hurt anyone else; but, we unintentionally cause damage when we let anger control us.
• 24. Where should we spend our free time? Shouldn’t we both enjoy ourselves as individuals before going back together later?
• 25. Am I doing enough for my mate? Does this ring true for you? Make an effort to show appreciation for the little things that you do for your partner.
• 26. What do I really look forward to all day long? Do you ever wonder why I act excited whenever we’re together? Think about the things you do that bring joy into your life.
• 27. Do you talk to me about important issues? What does she need from me? When did I last share a heartfelt thought about how special she is?
• 28. What can I do that would help you fall more deeply in love with me? How could I communicate better with you? Is there any way that I could earn your trust?
• 29. How can I improve myself? In order to keep growing as a person, we need constant growth in our relationships.
• 30. Are you ready to grow as a couple? Be honest with each other and encourage one another to learn new skills. Together, we’ll both enjoy a richer relationship.
• 31. Can you see beyond the surface? Think about a friend or family member’s flaws. Now, imagine those same traits reflected on your partner. How would you feel?
• 32. How can I comfort you? Tell me what makes you sad. Your pain shows when you are angry. But, it disappears when you are able to express your emotions.
• 33. Why am I so self-conscious? People can be intimidated by confidence. So, they seek out insecure partners who have few problems speaking up.
• 34. What has changed since we began dating? Do you notice less change after four months than after two weeks? We need to learn to expect the unexpected.
• 35. Is there anything about me that you dislike? List three ways that you hope to change yourself starting tomorrow morning. Ask your spouse to share his/her opinion.
• 36. Do you want to make a commitment? Are you willing to commit to loving each other forever? Choose today to make your decision.
• 37. Would you ever consider marriage? If not, why not? Marriage takes work, but it’s worth it!
• 38. Do you support my career goals? Do you enjoy what I’m doing? Being married means supporting one another in every area of life. You must share in each other’s ambitions.
• 39. Do you admire my strengths? Do you appreciate how hard I work? It is easy to overlook our mate’s best points if we aren’t paying attention.
• 40. What are your fears? Are you afraid of hurting someone else? Of never finding fulfillment in marriage? Or, maybe your fear stems from childhood wounds.
• 41. Have I been keeping my promises? If so, how? Do I always tell you “I love you” or “I wish I loved you more? The best couples don’t wait until they feel motivated to follow through on their words. They speak well before they mean to.
• 42. What have we learned about ourselves during these past six months? Did anything surprise you? Let go of everything familiar and start this fresh year.
• 43. How well do we agree? Are we united in our beliefs & values? Do we even know where we stand? This doesn’t just happen naturally.
• 44. Has anyone tried to manipulate you while we’ve dated? If so, how did you handle it? Was he right about you? Should you have done something differently?
• 45. Describe how happy you are as a couple. What kind of relationship do you desire? To be closer together physically? Emotionally? Spiritually? Do you find that most couples say they’re “in love,” but they really aren’t?
• 46. What did we accomplish together? Share any big events that marked our lives last year. Were you surprised? Which moments were the happiest ones for you?
• 47. What will you do with the rest of your life? Where will you live? What careers will you pursue? Will you grow old together or apart? Don’t you worry too much about the future! Only God knows what He has planned for us!
• 48. Who do you spend time with? Who are your friends? When was the last time you spent quality time with them? Do you have fun when you hang out with people who don’t know you? Discussing your day over coffee once a week isn’t enough. It’s important to get away for alone time with your spouse.
• 49. Have I shown you that I care about your feelings? Does anything hurt my heart more than seeing you sad? Show how deeply you care for others by caring for those closest to you.
• 50. What is my greatest strength? My weaknesses? Do I hide anything from you? Have I failed somewhere? Can I accept myself enough to let you love me without reservation?
• 51. When did we first show affection for each other? Has it changed? Maybe there weren’t many physical displays at the beginning, because we thought being romantic was a sign of immaturity. But now we can laugh at those days.
• 52. What are we looking forward to? Is there anything exciting going on in our lives? We need excitement and happiness to keep us connected.
• 53. What does love look like? Do you see yourself as the type of person that loves easily? Do you think your spouse would fall hopelessly in love with you? What makes you believe that?
• 54. How often do we fight? Do we argue? Even though disagreements are inevitable, a healthy relationship doesn’t allow fights to become an everyday occurrence. How do we resolve tensions in our relationships?
• 55. What kinds of things make us mad? Why? You may not realize it, but the tone of your voice conveys emotions that might anger your partner. Learn to control your temper.
• 56. What should we expect to learn from each other? Do we talk about the tough subjects? If not, why? Shouldn’t we confront our fears before we date someone? Confrontation builds intimacy—or so I’m told.
• 57. Are we making promises to each other? If not, why not? We want to show each other that we respect and trust the other person.
• 58. How do you feel about commitment? Do you want to promise forever? Have you ever made such a vow? Do you think it’s possible that someone can be committed to you even after they meet you?
• 59. What are our plans for the future? Do you intend to marry? Do you plan to stay married for a lifetime? Do you want children someday?
• 60. What am I most afraid of? Do I want this relationship to last all our lives? Or do some changes scare me? Do you agree?
• 61. What has been difficult for you to forgive? Could we move past this? When a couple gets into a disagreement, it takes two parties to work through issues. The one who holds onto bitterness won’t help their mate understand what they’re angry about.
• 62. Will we take risks? In a relationship, it’s only natural to resist risk-taking. But if you never try something new, you’ll always be safe and boring. Risk taking leads to growth.
• 63. What do we admire about each other? Do we find ourselves in the same situation? Many couples share similarities when it comes to work, religion, age, education, etc.
• 64. Would we prefer to live together instead of dating? Do we want another life partner besides each other? Do you dream of having children together?
• 65. How much time do we spend alone together? If not, how do we manage it better? At what times of day or night do we enjoy each other’s company? Does spending too much time apart bother you? Do you secretly wish you loved your partner as much as he or she loves you?
• 66. What are we grateful for in each other? Our personalities attract people because we have different interests, goals, talents, etc. Yet those differences don’t mean that we shouldn’t appreciate the ways in which we complement each other.
• 67. Where do we go for fun? Do we share hobbies? Do we travel somewhere to get away? Do we like the same sports teams? Do you like playing games?

Conclusion

I hope that these relationship journal prompts have helped you two to cultivate a stronger bond in your romantic relationship.

Best of luck!