Journal Writing Prompts for Finding Love and Soulmates

• 1. Write down everything good that happened to you over the past week. Did anything stand out to you? What made you smile? Why? How did you celebrate? Were there any lessons learned during those celebrations? What would have been a better celebration? Would it still have been just as meaningful if it had been different?
• 2. Describe one thing you don’t like about yourself. It doesn’t matter whether it’s physical or mental characteristics; only describe the one characteristic that bothers you the most. Do you wish it were different? Can you do something about it?
• 3. Think about how you interact with others. What makes you connect with people? What is the quality that you absolutely admire in other people? What traits do you dislike in other people? Can you look at your own faults in that same light?
• 4. What does happiness mean to you? Is there a particular feeling or activity that brings you joy every time you experience it? Or maybe there isn’t such a thing?
• 5. Choose an event from your past and try to make sense of it. Why was it important to you? Was it difficult? Could you see it happening from a completely different perspective now?
• 6. Imagine being able to ask for advice from anyone you want. What question would you ask? Who would respond and why? Which answer would resonate with you the most?
• 7. Write down three words that best describe you. Now, imagine that each word has its own color. What color do each word possess? Does their respective color convey some kind of meaning to you?
• 8. Write down three positive qualities about yourself. Which one is the most important to you? Why?
• 9. Decide which person you like the most among all human beings. Why do you like him/her so much? Do you even enjoy spending time with this individual? In what ways have you grown because of him/her?
• 10. Write down two words that best summarize your first impression of someone. If you met this person again after today, what would be your reaction? What would you say or do?
• 11. Make a list of places where you might meet someone new. Are you looking forward to getting into a relationship right away? Do you know who you are going to focus on meeting first?
• 12. Write down five aspects of your personality that you’d like to improve. What are they? How long will it take to get rid of them? Do you really need to change something about yourself to be worthy of love?
• 13. Describe the perfect date. Will you be taking the lead or waiting to hear what he/she says next? Will you go somewhere you’ve never been before, or somewhere familiar? Where will you go? Who will you be with? Will you dress up or down?
• 14. When in doubt, write it down. This can come in handy when you’re trying to remember exactly how you felt yesterday or last year, or simply when you feel frustrated and unsure of yourself. You’ll find yourself thinking “I remember doing X but I’m not sure how” and then realize your memory could fill in the blanks.
• 15. Think back to your very first kiss. Was he/she awkward or smooth? What did you notice about his/her lips and tongue? Do you think it’s possible to learn something new about kissing from that simple moment?
• 16. Have a conversation using only one sentence for each turn. For example: “How do you feel?” Then “What do you think?” Then “Why?” The idea here is to keep the conversation as short and sweet as possible. It should remain open-ended, allowing room for spontaneity. Try writing these questions down beforehand.
• 17. Draw a picture of your ideal partner. What would this individual look like? What would she/he be wearing? Would he/she look smart or casual? Would he/she carry herself differently?
• 18. Identify one thing about you that you think few people understand or appreciate. Explain it.
• 19. Look for four things that you don’t want your significant other to have in common with anyone else. What would make you stop loving him/her completely if he/she had these traits?
• 20. Tell your true self a story. Tell her/him everything you just wrote down. Does it matter whether she/he believes you or not? If so, why?
• 21. Identify an area in your life that needs improvement. Write down specific steps you plan on taking to get there. Then identify the biggest obstacle preventing those steps from being realized (e.g., lack of motivation, no clear goals).
• 22. Imagine you were having a bad day. How would you react? Is it possible to control your mood by changing the way you act? Can you alter how you behave based on the emotions you feel?
• 23. Answer these questions honestly, even if you aren’t entirely sure the answers will help you. What do you want to teach your lover? Why would you encourage him/her to give their best effort? How does this belief influence your interactions with him/her throughout the day?
• 24. Consider the following: A) What kind of friend do you most admire? B) If you weren’t physically able to do what you want to accomplish, what would you choose to do instead? C) In a situation where you cannot say anything negative, what would you wish you could say? Don’t worry about sounding mean; think of examples that highlight your thoughts, feelings, or beliefs.
• 25. Name six words that best describe you. Make sure they are positive and realistic.
• 26. Create an identity statement for your relationship. Describe your ideal personality traits, interests, accomplishments, hobbies, attitudes toward life, family, relationships, etc. Be honest! Use adjectives or phrases such as “fun,” “loving,” “loyal,” “selfless,” “generous.”
• 27. Look at yourself through someone else’s eyes. What might your ideal man/woman be like to them? Find out more about who this person may be by reading books, magazines, websites, watching movies, etc.
• 28. Think of five qualities you’d like to see in a future husband or wife. Who can you imagine meeting that possesses all of those characteristics?
• 29. When considering your potential mate, ask yourself what kind of person she/he would be as a boss. Think about his/her habits, strengths, weaknesses, etc. Would you enjoy working for this person? What type of work environment do you prefer?
• 30. List five things you dislike about yourself. Next, list two reasons why this particular trait is part of your nature and isn’t fixed. Ask yourself to define beauty in terms of character.
• 31. Choose one thing you’re grateful to have in your life right now, including physical features, emotional well-being, financial condition, education, health, career, friends, family, etc. Now, write down three ways you can improve upon this blessing.
• 32. What are your favorite foods? Are they unhealthy, nutritious, good tasting, low fat, etc.? Have fun discussing healthy eating practices with your partner.
• 33. What is your ultimate goal in life? Do you know exactly what you are striving to become? What makes you happy? What brings you joy? Do not answer with “to find my soulmate” – think bigger than that…think of something that really matters to you.
• 34. List the names of three people who are very special to you. Why did you include these individuals? Which one(s) would make your top choices when choosing a spouse?
• 35. Write a letter to yourself ten years from now. What can you envision happening by then? Will there be some regrets? Is there a dream you haven’t yet realized?
• 36. What is the most important quality you wish to possess in a mate? Share this thought with your significant other. Discussing the subject will help both parties understand each other better.
• 37. Make a list of everything you need to live happily and peacefully. Then create a plan to achieve these needs.
• 38. In what way does being happy and contentment affect your ability to attract love? Tell your partner how you hope he/she feels in their heart.
• 39. Think about times when you’ve given up on reaching certain goals. How was this decision made? Did it lead to any undesirable consequences?
• 40. What are the secrets to finding true love? For example: Are material possessions necessary for success? Can wealth guarantee companionship? Does money buy true love?
• 41. How are you feeling today? Take time to record your emotions.
• 42. What are the qualities you look for in a long term mate? Explain briefly why you feel your needs are so unique.
• 43. What is the best advice you have ever received regarding marriage? What was this piece of wisdom based on? Why do you believe it applies to yourself?
• 44. Identify four areas in which you’re weak. Consider your partner’s strengths. What areas are they lacking in? Create an action plan to correct personal failings.
• 45. What are your fears about relationships? Be honest.
• 46. Do you have a secret fear? If so, share it candidly.
• 47. List the traits you expect to see in your ideal spouse. Your list should contain at least eight items. Describe the kind of relationship you want with this man or woman. Also, describe what you want out of a lasting partnership.
• 48. What would you like to change about yourself? How could you begin making changes?
• 49. What is your greatest strength and weakness? How will this influence your choice of mates and partners?
• 50. What are your biggest dreams? Set specific dates for your achievements.
• 51. Look at every moment as an opportunity to learn and grow. What have you learned here? What lessons must you take into the future?
• 52. What are your weaknesses? How has this affected your life and decisions?
• 53. Put a picture of your ideal future household. Include furniture, pets, plants, children, and activities. What will your home look like? Who will live inside? Who would visit?
• 54. What is the personification of your life purpose? What would this mean to you if you were able to attain it?
• 55. Do you think that having financial security is necessary for happiness? Why or why not? Discuss your views with your partner.
• 56. What do you want most in life? Choose something to work toward. Write down your goal.
• 57. Write down your definition of peace; what does it mean to you? Ask your family members and friends what they think of your idea.
• 58. What would you rather die than lose? Explain your response. Would this apply to everyone the same? To whom?
• 59. Define “love.” Is it possible to find someone to love? If so, explain your thoughts.
• 60. What do you think about the subject of soul mates? Have you met anyone who fits these descriptions? Explain clearly.
• 61. What makes you laugh? Share some jokes.
• 62. What have been some of your greatest disappointments? How did you handle this situation? What can you improve upon for next time?
• 63. What have you learned from others’ experience in romance and marriage? How would you advise others?
• 64. Name three things you would like to change in your life. Briefly, consider what steps you’d need to take to meet this goal.
• 65. Has there ever been a time when you failed miserably at meeting a goal? What happened? Where did your failure lead you?
• 66. What words can you use to describe certain people? Are you often using negative adjectives to describe loved ones? Explain.
• 67. Have you ever had to forgive someone because you couldn’t forgive yourself? Explain.
• 68. When was your last fight with a significant other over money? Explain. Was he right? Were you wrong? In what ways?
• 69. What is one thing you’ve always wanted but never accomplished? Now, write down what you’ll do differently on your journey to success.
• 70. What type of people do you appreciate the most? Why?
• 71. What types of people bother you the most? Explain.
• 72. What type of people annoy you the most? Explain your feelings.
• 73. What are the best gifts you have received? How much importance do you place on receiving gifts?
• 74. What sort of gifts make you feel more special? Explain your feelings. Consider giving a gift in return. Be sure to share how you felt when you gave your gift!
• 75. What is one aspect of your character that you wish you had improved? Explain this through examples.
• 76. What quality do you admire and respect the most in a mate/ideal partner? Explain.
• 77. Whose opinion would you value the most in selecting a mate? Explain. What qualities must a mate possess in order to win your approval?
• 78. What quality of yours is considered annoying by another person? Explain how it affects you.
• 79. Describe the kind of relationship you envision in your life together. How long has it existed between couples with similar goals?
• 80. Talk about a time when you were angry at a friend. Did you get past this anger quickly? Explain.
• 81. Have you ever let an argument escalate out of control? What did you learn and what advice would you give to stop such situations before they happen?
• 82. Have you ever held back on revealing something to a trusted person? Explain why or why not.
• 83. Do you keep secrets from those closest to you? Why or why not?
• 84. How many times have you lied about your true intentions in your daily life? Explain.
• 85. What are five qualities you desire in a person whom you hope to spend the rest of your life with? Explain.
• 86. Would you prefer to date someone older than yourself or younger? Explain.
• 87. How much does your family influence your dating decisions? Explain. Is there any reason your family might object to your marrying?
• 88. What is your view of love and sex? Can you explain your thoughts?
• 89. If you were going to be alone for six months, what changes would you make in order to enjoy your solitude better? Explain.
• 90. How has work affected your personal relationships? To what extent?
• 91. Write down all of the places where you feel safe and comfortable in everyday situations. Now add three additional places.
• 92. What is it that you find attractive in your ideal love life? Explain.
• 92. What is the most important quality to you in a partner; physical appearance, social standing, intelligence, personality traits, etc.?
• 93. How often do you consider yourself lucky in your current relationship? Explain.
• 94. Do you think too much of possessions can hurt relationships? Explain.
• 95. Which of these traits describe your ideal mate; kindness, compassion, understanding, honesty, dependability, loyalty, faithfulness, intelligence, humor, attractiveness, sense of style, sense of humor, good health, caring, financial stability, courage, strength, patience, and self-confidence? Explain.
• 96. What is your greatest fear regarding being single? Explain.
• 97. What type of relationship do you expect to have in marriage? Why?
• 98. How many people have expressed interest in being involved romantically with you? In each case, indicate whether you accepted their advances. If so, explain the circumstances behind your decision.
• 99. Give specific examples of times when you have been willing to put aside friendships in favor of pursuing a relationship. Were any persons harmed as a result?
• 100. When was the last time you felt rejected by another person? On what occasion? Explain. What feelings arose within you?
• 101. What is the meaning of life to you and how do you want your future relationships to look like?

Conclusion

I hope that these journal prompts have helped you in your romantic relationship. You deserve to live happily ever after in your daily life.

Best of luck!